Category Archives: Parenting

Wrapping up Effective Communication

The forty plus posts on this blog have been based on a course I taught entitled: Effective Communication. The required text for that course was, Looking Out, Looking In (2004) by Adler, Towne & Rolls. There are probably newer versions … Continue reading

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Holiday Survival 2014

The holiday season is upon us.  Many of us will throw wide our doors or travel miles to be with family. But, let’s be honest – these times can be joy-filled, trying and overwhelmingly painful – all within the space … Continue reading

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Reaching out with Kindness

What do you think, folks? The Saying What Matters Lady believes the above statement to be true. Since this is a blog about improving our communication skills, it makes sense to stop and think about how our words echo down … Continue reading

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The Trials and Tribulations of Ineffective Listening

In today’s post, as promised, we’ll take a look at a few ineffective listening scenarios. Psuedo-listening This type of listening imitates real listening but obviously misses the mark.   As a busy mom in days gone by, I remember doing … Continue reading

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Holiday Survival 101

The Saying What Matters Lady wants to remind all of you that the Christmas season can be a stressful time. For those of you who never experience any holiday madness in yourself or others, no need to keep reading – … Continue reading

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Thoughts Shape Emotions

“All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become.” (Nice Buddha quote) Have you ever heard the expression – you are what you eat? It could be aptly … Continue reading

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Opening up to the other – the heart of communication

Experiencing the other side is the heart of dialogue – so says Martin Buber. The art (and by the way the secret) of dialogue is openness to the other side, a willingness to put on the other person’s shoes. We … Continue reading

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Let’s Communicate

“To be, means to communicate. Absolute death is a state of being unheard, unrecognized, unremembered. To be, means to be for another, and through the other, for oneself.” (Russian linguist, Mikhail Bakhtin) Welcome to Saying What Matters, a blog about … Continue reading

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