Category Archives: Photography

Wrapping up Effective Communication

The forty plus posts on this blog have been based on a course I taught entitled: Effective Communication. The required text for that course was, Looking Out, Looking In (2004) by Adler, Towne & Rolls. There are probably newer versions … Continue reading

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How to do Win-Win Conflict Resolution

In the last post, we discussed the various ways people handle conflict. Let’s take a closer look at the win-win approach. Because, seriously folks, don’t we all want to be part of such a process? Don’t feel bad if you … Continue reading

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Methods of Conflict Resolution

Every conflict is, at its most basic level, a struggle to get one’s goals met. The thing to keep in mind is that all parties involved are bent on the same goal. In today’s post, we’ll look at a few … Continue reading

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Assertion and the Clear Message Format

In our last post on conflict – oh my, that word does invoke a shiver – we looked at different ways people approach conflict. In today’s post, we’ll delve deeper into the assertive approach and how we can deliver an … Continue reading

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Your Personal Conflict Style

In our last post, we examined our feelings about conflict and tried to wrap our heads around what the word means. Today, we’ll look at a few common ways people approach conflict situations. Non-assertive A person approaching conflict from a … Continue reading

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Managing Interpersonal Conflict

What words come to mind when you think of conflict? The Saying What Matters lady will give you a moment to come up with a few. Avoid, avoid, avoid Might makes right Run and hide Fight or flight Come out … Continue reading

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Responding Non-Defensively to Criticism

In the last two posts we’ve been examining the communication climate. Just as in the real world, it is weather trends that add up to climate. Defensiveness is often the cause of stormy weather and too many storms can ultimately … Continue reading

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Defensiveness – Causes and Remedies

Defensive reactions can spiral through our relationships and cause real problem. The Saying What Matters lady would contend that the root of such behaviour is the desire to save face. We don’t want to hear messages that will challenge our … Continue reading

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How is Your Communication Climate?

The Saying What Matters lady wishes all of you good communication for 2015. The next few posts will focus on the communication climate – what it is and how we can improve it as well as dealing with that pesky, … Continue reading

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Holiday Survival 2014

The holiday season is upon us.  Many of us will throw wide our doors or travel miles to be with family. But, let’s be honest – these times can be joy-filled, trying and overwhelmingly painful – all within the space … Continue reading

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